Relationships and sex after a heart attack
Explore some useful things to know about intimacy after a heart attack.
Key takeaways
- Your relationships may change after a heart attack.
- It’s possible to resume a normal sex life.
- If there are any problems, help is available.
- Never stop taking your medication without talking to your doctor.
It can be really uncomfortable to talk about this. The good news is that most concerns can be overcome.
Relationships
The best thing you can do is talk about how you’re feeling. It might be hard, but it lets people know how they can help. Some couples find it easier to talk with a relationship counsellor.
Hearing from other people who have been through a similar experience as you can help. See Gary, Joanne and Margaret’s stories now.
Sex and intimacy
- Sex is usually a mild to moderate activity. So, if you can climb two flights of stairs without pain or shortness of breath, then you should be fine.
- If you’ve had surgery, wait until you’re healed (usually 6-8 weeks). Don’t put any weight your chest.
- Avoid sex after eating a large meal, drinking alcohol or when you’re tired.
Remember, there are other ways to feel connected. Kissing, cuddling, holding hands and just spending time together will make you feel close and loved.
Starting again
Some sexual positions may be more comfortable, and can ensure you avoid stress on your breastbone if you’ve had surgery.
Make sure you’re relaxed. Creating a romantic atmosphere can help reduce your stress.
Timing is also important. Make sure you’re well rested and don’t rush – have lots of time to enjoy each other.
And there’s more good news – the lifestyle changes that help your heart can also help your sex life!
Worries
Some men experience erectile dysfunction. This means that they’re unable to maintain an erection. It’s common, and can be caused by things like medication, stress, anxiety or depression. Medication or other aids may be useful.
Your doctor will know how to help, and there are many excellent resources.
Side effects
There are some simple things you can do. You can:
- Talk to your doctor. Your doctor will have advice and suggestions
- Buy lubricant from the pharmacy
- Plan to have sex before you take your blood pressure medicine to avoid the negative effects (such as impotence).
The Heart Foundation helpline can give you more support and information. Just call 13 11 12 during business hours.
- Know the warning signs of a heart attack.
- Take time to return to intimacy and sex, speak to a health professional if you have any concerns.
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